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New moms of twins and multiples often forget that they have individuality or a personality apart from their kids. First thing that people notice about you when you are on a family trip, are your twins or multiples. They comment how the babies look or act alike and how blessed or wretched you are for having them. It seems weird to have both your hands free at the same time. The connection between the children and moms is so strong that they often forget that they have independent personalities apart from each other. Comments on looks or dress are few and rare. Yet, most moms would not even like to imagine a life without their dear babies, even if they had a choice.
Needs and desires change for moms of twins or multiples change drastically. They love to take a nap and talk to their friends, family or neighbors for a meaningful adult conversation that offer them respite from the constant baby babbling and brainteasers. It is a good idea to just throw a glance over the top headlines of the newspaper so that you can be in touch with your surroundings. Try not to curb all your hobbies to nothing. Even a few moments of doing things that you enjoy will keep you from breaking down. Find a babysitter while you go for a walk with a friend to the nearest coffee shop or read a book before drifting off to sleep, even if it just a few lines everyday. This will help you to survive and cope up with the stress of the first few months much better.