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Middle Adolescents (15 - 17 Years)

Middle adolescent is the phase, when a child is on the road of transformation. There are a whole lot of changes that occur, be it, physically, mentally, cognitively or sexually. While most of the girls cross their puberty stage, boys are still on the road of maturing physically. It is that time of life, when your kid would be most concerned about his/her look, body and appearance. Middle adolescent is the time when, your teenager is developing his/her unique personality and opinions. Friends play a pivotal role during these years. Young teenagers take great care to maintain their identity in the peer group.

Competitiveness also becomes a major priority in the life of middle teens. Many of them try to analyze the experiences they are going through and try to understand their inner turbulence by writing diaries and journals. Remember, middle teens are more capable of setting goals. However, the goals they set are often too high and as a result succumb to their own expectations. A withdrawal from the parents is also one of the key characteristic found in children of this age. However, there are ways by which, as parents, you can curtail the problems and develop healthy relationship with your teenage child. To get parental tips on how to deal with your middle adolescents, browse through the following lines.

Parenting Tips For Middle Adolescents
  • A cordial relation with your kids, when he/she is in his middle adolescent years, is very necessary. During this phase of life, children undergo various changes be it physically, mentally emotionally or even psychologically.
  • Have a friendly relationship with your teen son or daughter. Ask him/her about his/her concerns and pay attention to any changes in behavior. There is no harm in asking the kid, whether he/she had suicidal thoughts, particularly during the times when he/she looks sad or depressed.
  • As parents, you need to show interest in your teenager's school and extracurricular interests and activities. If your kid is interested in activities such as sports, music, theater or art, encourage him/her to engage himself/herself in the art.
  • When your kid scores well or does a good work, make sure you praise your teenager and celebrate the hard work put in, his/her efforts and accomplishments.
  • Spending time with middle adolescent is very crucial. For instance, if both of you love swimming, the best bet would be to head to the pool together. This way, not only you would be able to spend time with him/her, but also enjoy and have fun together.
  • The most important thing would be to render a patient ear to your kid. Respect his/her advice and suggestion. Even if you feel that the opinion is not worth considering, do not let your teenager know this. Instead, say him that you are considering the option given by him. This way he/she would feel that you are considering him as an adult.
  • It is very important to teach your child the civic sense. Encourage your teenager to actively participate and engage himself/herself in civic activities in his/her community.
  • Decision-making is an important aspect for a teenager to learn at this phase. In case of a conflict or a problem, encourage your teenager to solve the problems by his/her own. However, make sure you are always there when he/she needs advice or support.
  • Teaching the kid the importance of time is very important. Make him/her realize that it is only when you respect time, time respect you. In case your kid spends a lot of time in interactive internet media such as games, chat rooms, and instant messaging, encourage him to be disciplined.
  • Public manners and etiquettes play a pivotal role as we grow up. Remember, your child is no longer a small kid. He/she should have the basic manners and etiquettes.
  • In terms of nutrition, encourage your child to get enough sleep and exercise, and to eat healthy, balanced meals. As parents, encourage your child to have meals with the family. This would give family members time to talk with each other, apart from promoting healthy weight and proper nutrition.
  • Do not be too interfering. Remember, your teenager also needs privacy and a space for his/ her own.
  • Middle adolescent is the phase when the child can get involved in activities such as drugs, drinking or even sex. Discuss what he/she can do if someone in a group forces him/her to consume drugs or is under pressure to have sex with someone, or even offered a drink by someone.